As death care professionals, we are called to serve in some of the most sensitive and emotionally charged moments in people’s lives. Public speaking, whether in front of colleagues, clients, or large audiences at conferences, is an essential skill for anyone in this field. But let’s be honest—speaking in front of others can be intimidating. I’ve been there, standing before an audience, my heart racing, my mind clouded with doubt. But I’ve learned that overcoming the fear of public speaking is not just about personal growth; it’s about the impact we can have as professionals.
1. Acknowledge the Fear, It’s Normal Fear is natural. When I first began speaking to groups about the importance of cultural competence in death care, I was overwhelmed with nerves. But instead of suppressing my fear, I learned to acknowledge it. The truth is, we’re all human, and fear is a part of any professional journey. As death care professionals, we understand the weight of our work, and acknowledging our fear means we honor the significance of our message. It’s a sign that what we have to say matters.
2. Preparation: Your Foundation for Confidence In this line of work, preparation is everything. I spend time ensuring I understand the audience I’m addressing, whether it’s a funeral home staff, a conference audience, or even a family in mourning. Preparation is not just about memorizing facts; it’s about being prepared to offer value and provide support. The more you prepare, the more confident you will feel in any speaking situation. Knowing that you are sharing knowledge that will benefit others, especially in such a deeply personal industry, can turn anxiety into focus.
3. Focus on the Message, Not Yourself Death care is about connection. It’s not about us as individuals; it’s about the families, communities, and colleagues we serve. As professionals in this field, our message is one of support, healing, and cultural sensitivity. When we focus on our message rather than worrying about how we appear or whether we’ll make a mistake, we free ourselves from the weight of self-doubt. And, in doing so, we deliver the message with authenticity, empathy, and impact.
4. Embrace Imperfection—It’s Part of the Journey One of the most liberating lessons I’ve learned is that perfection is not the goal. It’s about progress, not perfection. In death care, we deal with human emotion—there’s no perfect way to address grief, and there’s no perfect way to deliver a message. I’ve made mistakes while speaking, stumbled over words, or lost my place. And guess what? It didn’t take away from the value of my message. In fact, my imperfections humanize me and allow the audience to relate. Imperfection doesn’t detract from your professionalism; it adds to your authenticity.
5. Start Small, Build Your Confidence No one is born a great public speaker, especially in a field as complex and emotionally charged as death care. I started by speaking to small groups, whether it was a team meeting or a virtual training session. These smaller settings helped me build my confidence, refine my approach, and develop my voice. Eventually, these experiences led to larger speaking engagements and the ability to speak with more conviction, knowing that the work we do is critical and deserving of recognition. Each step forward builds your confidence.
6. Use Your Voice to Lead, Guide, and Support As death care professionals, our voice is a tool for guidance, support, and education. Whether you’re explaining the importance of culturally competent end-of-life care, providing guidance on grief support, or advocating for policy changes in the industry, your voice matters. The fear that comes with public speaking can be transformed into a powerful force that drives change, fosters understanding, and educates others in ways that only you can. Our work is about offering solutions, compassion, and expertise—and the ability to share that with others is a skill that can open doors to new opportunities.
Overcoming the fear of public speaking isn’t just about personal development—it’s an essential skill for anyone in the death care profession. The more we speak out and share our knowledge, the more we can educate others, shape conversations, and advocate for the changes needed in the industry. Fear will always be part of the journey, but learning to manage it, embrace it, and use it to fuel your message is what will set you apart as a compassionate, effective leader.
What has your experience been with public speaking in your role? How have you used it to connect with others in your work? Let’s continue the conversation and support one another in building the confidence needed to make a meaningful impact in the death care field.
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